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Repat Dating Diaries: Oh no – I’ve been on this date before!

Cold, Quiet, Dry Winter Months

It’s been seven months since my return from the land of morning calm (Korea, dweebs). In that time I’ve tried to date as much as possible, if only to provide you lovely Seouls with fresh content so you can feel better about your lives as we go into the cold, winter months. I thought Itaewon was bad for guys and girls alike furiously swiping left and right while at a bar full of decent-looking, age appropriate humans with at least the common expat connection.¬† No, no – Toronto is far worse for tinder tendinitis.

Double-Dipping for Dating

I got pretty lucky meeting the hot, young, Italian 3-minute Stallion. I met a guy who flew all the way to Jamaica for some fatherly advice after we got “too intimate too quickly” (read: we went on 3 dates that week and he met my roommate’s dog). There was a carpenter, but if you’ve been reading for a while then you know there’s only one carpenter in my heart (and no, it’s not JC). Beyond that, I’ve yet to really date the same dude twice – except I did.

Repetitive Repercussions

Keep in mind that I had been living on the other side of the planet for 3 years when I tell you this story. I thought the pictures were kind of familiar, but I just didn’t put two and two together. It was like a bad episode of “How I Met Your Mother”. There I was sitting in a booth at The Drake Hotel (a popular West Queen West spot) and my date walked in. He wasn’t anything to write home about, but I probably wouldn’t have kicked him out of bed either. Then, he opened his mouth and it all came flooding back. After 3 years, he still told me the same stories about his 1 trip to Poland (tldr: he got drunk the whole time and saw no historical attractions). My date was still bragging about buying his condo with 0% down.

I’ve Learned Nothing

Was this a trap? Did he know that I knew who he was? Was he pretending we had never met before, too? This was the first time I had doubled-down on a dreadful date. Are there really so few single men in this city? Have I completed the circle and come back to the start?

Who knows…

I’ll probably make this mistake again.

 

Expat Dating Diaries: Are You Scared to Be Lonely

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I’m not the girl I used to be. The manic pixie dream girl you fell in love with on a moonlit night en route through sandy streets to 7-11 exists somewhere, but she’s not here. The stressed out, overworked, manic, afraid of failure girl you loved because you had to isn’t here either. I’m back in Canada where there’s no mania whatsoever. Honestly – I feel as though I must be crazy for holding onto this, but my life is so well-balanced and normal that it can’t be. I’ve either become completely boring or am walking the long line of a plateau; on the precipice of something great.

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I wake up and start my day with a light workout. I go to work and count my calories. After work sometimes I’ll go to boxing and sometimes I’ll make plans with a friend. Every two weeks I pay off my credit card and put money into a tax-free savings account. I’m now 31 and this is what you do here even though the notion that I’ll ever produce anything with my measly savings is one hell of a pipe dream. Occasionally I’ll go on a blind date because its next to impossible to meet someone organically. I’ll typically never see the person again and consider it time wasted on the search to find your replacement.

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Have you ever tried to replace a love which has moved you so deeply that it changed the way you approach every element of your life? The kind of love that can shake you to your core with memories of its intensity? I have. I was pretty successful too for a 4-month stint because I found someone who was even more afraid of being on his own than I.

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For most of my life I was a lone wolf. I was more concerned with getting ahead in my career than finding a partner. I dated, sure, but I had never felt like a piece of myself or my heart was missing until my trip to Thailand in 2016. I was free before I met him, and now i’m scared I’ll never feel free or love/ be loved the same way ever again. It was my 29th birthday and I met the puzzle piece I never knew I was missing at a hostel on the beach in Phuket. After a week together I grit my teeth and made my way back to Korea and feeling emotional pain unlike anything I’ve ever felt in my life.

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When he made the leap of faith and moved to Korea to be with me, I didn’t know how to be thankful in a humble way. I didn’t know how to love him without smothering him and unintentionally pushing him away. It was such a foreign concept to me that someone like that could make such a sacrifice for me, that every day was worth celebrating. Colours were brighter. Food tasted better. Parties needed to last all night because why wouldn’t everyone want to rejoice in my newfound discovery?

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It was exhausting for us both, eventually, and when he left I felt a pain even more excruciating than before. It stayed with me for another 4 months through which time I must have dyed my hair 10 times and blacked out even more.

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Then at the beginning of March I met someone. He was still in a long-distance relationship at the time, but I had had no idea. We didn’t have that much in common, but he kept me on a schedule which improved my health and pulled me out of the darkness. He told me his mother always said he was a white knight to maidens in distress. I never imagined that my darkness would take me that low. Eventually I regained my footing and my strength. Of course that was a turn-off for him, and he sought another insecure woman. My replacement had replaced me. You told me you always thought he looked weird.

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Looking back to that time in Thailand when we had just met, I remember something he said then reiterated the day he moved in with me in Korea and about a year after we broke up. He had told me about this theory that some people were built for one another. I laughed it off because he told it to me in far more graphic terms than I’m explaining here (more emphasis on the body than the soul ūüćÜ), but feeling the need to repeat it one last time when we were both in replacement relationships something I still just can’t shake.

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I often wonder: if so many of us are just replacing our missing puzzle pieces, has the other half of my heart just found a band-aid¬†he can’t bear to rip? Are you putting a square peg in a round hole because you’re too scared to be lonely or too stubborn and afraid to admit you made a mistake?

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Scared to Be Lonely

Dua Lipa, Martin Garrix

It was great at the very start

Hands on each other

Couldn’t stand to be far apart

Closer the better

Is it just our bodies? Are we both losing our minds?
Is the only reason you’re holding me tonight
‘Cause we’re scared to be lonely?

Do we need somebody just to feel like we’re alright?
Is the only reason you’re holding me tonight
‘Cause we’re scared to be lonely?

Pumped up Profile: Communicate with Your Coach

I Get By With a Little Help

I’ve come to understand that fitness will always be a journey for me. I will always have ups and downs and times of amazing confidence or, like now, times where I just don’t feel like I’m at my peak. There are a gazillion reasons to get close to the person (or people, in my case) helping you on your fitness journey. When I started with Big Hit Kickboxing Studios, I was in pretty peak physical condition for my own standards. Beyond the obvious attention to my new additions, there wasn’t anything I was afraid to do nor was there much that could knock the wind out of me. Now that I’m well into my re-patriation, I’m not as confident or fearless. Plus I’m certainly not in the best shape anymore. I do, however, have help – and I want to encourage you to seek out allies on your fitness journey as well.

It’s Your First Time

If it’s your first time walking into a gym or walking into the ring, letting someone know you’re new isn’t embarrassing – it’s essential. More often than not, it’s expected that you’ll jump into a class and go with the flow. If your coach knows that it’s your first (or second, or even third time) they’ll make sure to give you that little extra bit of attention to ensure your technique is just right so you won’t get hurt. You may have signed a waiver before your class, but you’re part of the team now and nobody wants to see you injured!

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You Have an Injury

Speaking of injuries, if you’re just getting back to fitness you have to let your coach know. Hopefully you’ve given your body enough time to heal, but you might be a little rusty getting back in the game. I find a lot of coaches want to push you right to your limit. When I had my surgery anything chest related (from push-ups to lat pull-downs) was not on the menu. If your coach is aware of your limits, he or she will be more likely to give you an alternative motion to complete.

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You’re Lacking Confidence

Hesitation is one of the most common causes of injury in sports and physical fitness. In an instance where your timing is off because of jitters you could really hurt yourself. Taking a step back and asking for help will sharpen your focus and take you out of a fog of confusion which could cause an injury or give you an ineffective workout (be it once or as a pattern).

You Need to Up Your Game

If you commit yourself to the community at your gym/ studio (or create one – especially if it involves Tanya Kim – duh!) then there will be a give and take with your workouts.¬†When your coach knows you, he or she will be able to tell when you need to get out of your funk, or even if you need to be left alone. Sometimes when I’m at Big Hit, my instructor will get out the pads and work with people one on one. My energy is revved up to the max. I feel like I’m actually good at what we’re working on and I’m being rewarded for good work. On the flip side, when I’m not giving it my all you know nobody’s bringing those pads my way!

You may not be best friends with your coach/ yogi/ mentor/ instructor, but there’s a level of unspoken but always shown respect and discipline between the student and the master. Showing a little interest and a lot of initiative goes a long way. As it says on the wall of every Big Hit, “in 2 weeks you’ll feel it, in 4 weeks you’ll see it, in 8 weeks you’ll be it”.

I’ve mentioned Big Hit Kickboxing Studios a few times over the course of this article (and shared some pictures of some, not all, of my favourite coaches) because I’ve committed to a 3-month partnership with them to get back into fit fighting shape! For more Toronto Gym Alternatives, click here. For more on Big Hit:

  • Time Commitment: 30 ‚Äď 60 Minutes (most classes are 45 Minutes)
  • Cost: $30/ Drop-in Class,¬†packages vary,¬†and $59 gets you gloves, wraps, and 2 weeks of unlimited classes!
  • Difficulty: Medium
  • Location(s):¬†4 Locations around Toronto/ the GTA¬†and a new one opening up on The Danforth soon!

Candidly Cartier – Hit Back: Be Your Own Best Boss

 

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Kicking My Own Ass Back to Sanity

Buckle your seat belts and take out your chips and salsa, ’cause it’s about to get real cheesy up in hurr.¬† If you follow The Toronto Seoulcialite (my other “less sarcastic” blog), you’ll have read about my issues finding a job, finding a man, and finding my figure through the mess of moving back to Canada.¬† I’ve finally found something which¬† could be the makings of a career, and a date with myself 3 times a week which gives me structure and an outlet.¬† Coming back home is like picking up an old, ear-marked book.¬† The characters are the same and the setting hasn’t changed, but you’re still not exactly sure what will happen to the protagonist next.

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Someone Else’s Story

My biggest fear returning to Toronto was that I would be reliving the same old story.¬† While I was away, several of my friends partnered up, a couple had kids, many got promotions, some went back to school, and my nightmare boss was finally arrested.¬† Beyond that?¬† A lot of the people I’ve left are ear-marked – frozen in time right where I left them doing the same old things and just banging their heads against the wall calling it happiness.¬† I knew I wasn’t happy back in 2014 when I made the decision to begin the arduous application (okay – it was long, but not that tough) to move to Korea.¬† I couldn’t come home and return to old habits.

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Die Hard: With a Vengeance

Old habits die hard.  I ended up moving back to Queen St. West and was working in the events industry when, at last, I found work.  Getting into a rhythm took time, and my physical and emotional health took a hit.  I decided to hit back.  I bought myself a 2 week unlimited introductory pass at Big Hit Kickboxing Studios.  At that time, I was living with a disrespectful roommate who was a neglectful pet owner.  I had no autonomy in my own life.  Looking back, I think that I was committed to my 2 week membership, but not so much to myself.

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Be Your Own Boss (Without Working for Yourself)

I once read that you should treat yourself like the CEO of your own life, and that fitness was a meeting you set with your employees.¬† Good bosses don’t reschedule again and again.¬† I wasn’t managing my life properly, nor was I being a good boss to my mental and physical health.¬† At this point I needed to hit back, but not just for 2 weeks.¬† Big Hit Kickboxing Studios in Toronto has given me the schedule I need to succeed.

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Be a Good Boss

Proper preparation prevents poor performance.¬† I’ve set meetings with my very important sanity at least 3 times a week, which is honestly pretty manageable!¬† After work on weekdays I leave the office between 5 PM and 5:30 PM (I know – my job offers work/ life balance <3) and walk for about 35 – 40 minutes from the office to Big Hit Kickboxing Queen West.¬† The walk enables me to just zone out and enjoy constant, steady movement while listening to music.¬† The workout to follow is full of different combinations which challenge my mind and various muscle groups.¬† Over the next 3 months I’ll be sharing my highs, lows, pounds, and measurements.¬† Stay tuned for preparation and progress, not perfection.

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Naked Back-flips

Since getting back on a regular schedule with Big Hit Kickboxing Studios, I haven’t actually lost any weight, but the rest of my body and my life has changed pretty drastically.¬† My clothes have started to feel different – better.¬† I don’t crave sweets like I did throughout my unsettled period between my old job and old apartment and now.¬† I have been on several dates with not one, not two, but 3 different men who actually want to see me again.

When you start physical activity with dedication, dedication spreads throughout your life in different ways.¬† My posture exudes confidence rather than that fear of failure with which I started.¬† I’m back to caring about a connection rather than having a fear that I won’t be liked (word to the wise – fear of someone not liking you crushes a connection right off the start).¬† I don’t really have time for people who aren’t adding to my life in a positive way, so when I make time to see my friends we’re connecting on a much deeper and more enjoyable level.¬† I also always seem to come back to that old adage: “You can do naked back-flips across his lawn, but if you’re not the one he wants, honey, you’re just not the one he wants”.

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Strength, determination, and hope fill the pages of my novel.¬† I know what comes next in that old, worn out, dog-eared story because I’m writing it now.

Repatriation Diaries – Hiring Managers: The New FCKbois?

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The New Fckbois = Job Gatekeepers

How do you get a job in your old city/ industry when you’ve been out of both for over 3 years?¬† It took me 7 weeks from the time I arrived back in Toronto after Bali to my first day of work.¬† My method was to cast a wide, wide net and see what came out of making a full time job of finding full time work.¬† The first couple of weeks were frustrating as I’d see hiring manager after hiring manager check out my LinkedIn profile, but no communication beyond that.¬† I updated my resume a gazillion times so it would be more appealing to the digital media and advertising industries.¬† I was using my jet lag and night owl status to adjust and apply (and boy, did I ever apply for everything), but it felt like I was getting absolutely nowhere.

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Master of None

My recruiter told me that my career background read as unfocused even though it highlighted a lot of desirable skills.¬† Having been away from my home and my industry for 3 years I couldn’t exactly walk back into a director-level role, and my level of seniority was too high for most of the jobs for which I was actually eager.¬† I would have been happy to take on something that would have looked like a step backwards, as long as I was learning rapidly and equipping myself to move forward with a company.¬† The goal was to become an expert in my role, rather than a Jill of all trades.

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Living out of the City

For the first month and a half I felt like a hobo.¬† My parents moved to a small town when I was in my 2nd year of University.¬† When I finally started coming in for interviews I felt like I was on the “inconveniencing my friends” tour.¬† I couldn’t commit to hanging out because just to get into Toronto I had to bother my parents for a 45 minute ride to the Go Train station, then spend $10 to get unto Union Station, then get the subway with all my junk.¬† That’s if I had booked an AirBnB or had a friend’s couch on which to crash.¬† I was trying to survive just on wifi (cause you can, for the most part, in Korea).¬† After 2 weeks I realized that my savings from Korea unfortunately didn’t amount to much and I’d have to start spending.

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Waiting by the Phone

From my online applications, I had plenty of “no response” responses, a whole lotta “more appropriate backgrounds needed”, and some straight up weird replies from hiring managers who didn’t know the job from Adam and were just trying to get the placement $.¬† I was asked to complete several phone interviews and a pile of “assignments” (aka FREE WORK).¬† By applying online I got a bunch of garbage, but also a couple of interviews.¬† Pair that with the few interviews I got through personal references, and I was starting to feel hopeful again.¬† How can you sound positive once you finally get the interview when you’ve been dealing with rejection after rejection after rejection?¬†Image result for gif master of none

Dealing with Job Rejection

When I left Toronto I had my finger on the pulse.¬† My hire-ability was off the charts, but I couldn’t get a guy to take me out for coffee to save my life.¬† My, how the tables had turned.¬† In my most successful interview, I was told that I would hear back within a few days about next steps and meetings with the CEO.¬† Some of the recruiters/ hiring managers even promised offer letters within the next week.¬† I started looking for an apartment.¬† My friends started taking the idea of me sticking around pretty seriously.¬† Then, each and every one of those fckers ghosted me.¬† I even saw one of them from a pretty pathetic excuse for a communications company at a PR event.¬† I’ve never seen the “run fast ’cause I never called that broad back” face on a woman before, especially one with whom I had had a job interview!

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I did it! – Well…kinda

Like Dev, I did it…with plenty of help!¬† I actually got really, really lucky.¬† When I use the word “luck” I tend to mean a combination of timing + preparation. There’s a little element of magic that comes along with it, too.¬† I was walking out of one of these horrible cattle call job interview situations.¬† Picture pizza, a poorly-rehearsed speech from the child CEO, and sorority large-recruitment style “interviews”.¬† Then, I got a call from someone within my network.¬† I had sent her my resume weeks earlier.¬† Her friend had posted on Facebook about an immediate need.¬† Within 10 minutes I was on the phone with the gentlemen who would become my boss less than 24 hours later.¬† Sure – it’s only a contract for now, but it’s my foot in the door to work for an amazing organization doing some pretty creative things.

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Avoid the fckbois to Find a Job

Just like in dating, I met with a lot of fckbois.¬† In the end, I completely bypassed the fckbois (the recruiters) and found a diamond in the rough (the job).¬† Reach out to everyone in your network.¬† Don’t be afraid to annoy someone by asking to send along your resume.¬† Chances are they were once exactly where you were.¬† You can’t avoid the recruiters and HR managers hiring for positions they know nothing about.¬† You can¬† cast a wide net and let several of them work for you at once.

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May the odds be ever in your favour, Repats.

 

Re-pat Dating Diaries: Younger Men? Yes, please!

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The Newest in Dating Diaries: Repatriation

When writing about something as sensitive as dating, it’s kind of tough to write something positive without hurting someone’s feelings.¬† You might be thinking “huh? What’s she talking about?¬† Why would writing something good hurt someone?”, but hear me out.¬† When you write something – anything at all – and it strikes a chord in a man (even one you may have never met!) the comments section can get a little heated.¬† I’m ready and waiting with popcorn (Smartfood, I’ve missed you) for all of the man-hating, extreme feminist names they have stored in their back pockets.¬† When you write something about men in general, and someone else he thinks he’s the man in your life, feelings can get hurt.¬† I am single.¬† I am all over the map literally and figuratively.¬† In the (almost) 3 weeks I’ve been back in North America, I’ve met some truly wonderful people, and surprisingly young and accomplished men.

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Dating After Korea

Since leaving Korea, I’ve been through Bali, back to Korea, to Canada, the United States, and back to Canada all within 40 days.¬† If any of you think dating in Korea is wonderful, welcome to the rest of the world.¬† It’s your damn oyster!¬† If you’re having trouble and want to explore the dating world more extensively, maybe the contract life in the land of the morning calm isn’t for you.¬† I know I’ve always been the queen of bad timing, and Korea pressure didn’t help.¬† I’ve recently had a freedom and flexibility which seems to have been pretty attractive to men.¬† Well, pretty attractive to the average ODB and younger man, alike.¬† It feels nice to have most people believe I’m somewhere between 21 and 25.¬† Guess my multi-step K-Beauty routine has been working!¬† I’m always honest and upfront about being 30.¬† Ain’t no shame in that game.¬† My Tinder is set to meet men 25 – 37, which I feel is fairly age-appropriate.¬† Meeting younger guys (organically) has actually taught me a lot about how to relax into the dating world again.¬† In honour of The Real Housewives of New York City returning to Bravo, let’s let my favourite cradle-robber, Carole Radziwill,¬† tell you all about why repatriation is best with a younger man by your side.

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Confidence

At 30 (and after living in Korea), it’s really easy to get anyone’s number.¬† I’ve just been living in fantasy land (as far as any recruiters are concerned) for the past 3 years.¬† If you can’t walk up to a random hottie and pretend you’re just two SIMS characters after that, what HAS Korea taught you?¬† Seriously – after 30 we just don’t care.¬† There are dating opportunities everywhere.

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You Can’t Hurry Love

You might think that dating is the same everywhere.¬† That notion would be entirely incorrect.¬† Living in Korea has completely shaped the way I interact with men.¬† Expats don’t typically buy into the Korean way of dating, but we definitely don’t do it like we would back home.¬† We’ve all got that added pressure of our contract’s time limit looming over our heads, so more often than not we rush.¬† I remember by our 3rd date (in as many days) Co-P asked me to be his girlfriend (and subsequently married the next woman he only met a handful of times.¬† Bullet = dodged).¬† Adonis went from traveling SEA to living with me in the course of a month.

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You’ve been out of the game for X many years

Things happen so quickly when you’re living abroad or traveling.¬† I had a whirlwind romance turned roller-coaster ride in Bali over 10 days.¬† It’s insane how quickly things develop.¬† Because of my experiences, I have the emotional ADHD of a much younger human.¬† I need to learn how to slow down and actually meet people again the Western way.¬† In order to do so, dating a guy on my level has a number of benefits:

He’s Not Necessarily Established

Coming back to live in Canada I’ve stayed with my parents, gone on a blogger trip, and am currently house-sitting.¬† Until I sort out my job and living situation in Toronto, I’m 30 and living in my parents’ basement.¬† Good news!¬† He’s¬†probably still living with Mommy and Daddy, too, or he may have just moved out on his own.¬† You’re ready to re-enter the social scene and he’s eager to experience the city.¬† Nobody’s there to make you feel bad about starting over since he’s starting up as well.

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He’s Protective

The younger guys I’ve met thus far have been far more earnestly doting, caring, and chivalrous than guys my age.¬† Maybe there’s been a renaissance in upbringing or maybe they feel like they have more to prove with the change in typical gender dynamics.¬† Whatever it is, I’m appreciative.¬† All my life I’ve been so worried about losing someone precious.¬† Suddenly I feel like I’m the important one they don’t want stolen away.

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He’s Got the Energy

‘Nuff said.

He’ll teach you about the latest trends

I feel like such a geriatric creature bringing this one up, but there are pieces of generational technology I haven’t had time to peruse.¬† He’ll help you assess the latest gadgets and give you the specs before even heading in to buy the hardware.¬† When I’m still fighting with Olleh/ Korea Telecom (KT) to get my last account closed, it’s great to have a wealth of knowledge helping me along.

 

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Dating Younger: He Looks Good

Have you ever noticed how 30 year old men look these days?¬† Being stressed and overworked not only has an effect on the ol’ beer belly, but their skin loses glow, too.¬† Cameron Diaz’s character in “The Holiday” talks about how men age gracefully and women become haggard.¬† “I’m gonna call bullshit on that.”¬† That couldn’t be farther from the truth for me.¬† 5 years ago, a friend who had just turned 30 told me she was the happiest and in the best shape of her entire life.¬† I scoffed, but dammit if those words aren’t ringing like the Bell of Good Luck in my 30, flirty, and thriving ears.

In my mid-twenties I was fat and miserable.¬† I worked out plenty, but stress and poor eating habits got the best of me.¬† Coming back from Korea, I have a phenomenal beauty routine thanks to my friends at Leegeeham, G2Cell, CosRX (they just sent me a package I can’t WAIT to review for you), and Seoul Cosmetic Surgery.¬† Botox is no longer taboo.¬† Wouldn’t you want to stop the aging process dead in its tracks?¬† I don’t want to look like I’m dating a child, but I’m not ready to look like I’m dating my dad, either.

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Dating Expectations

When I was in my early to mid twenties, I went out with guys who I considered to be out of my league.¬† I dated a lot of douche-canoes; a lot of big Richards, if you will.¬† Ladies: you are worth it.¬† Don’t ever let a guy string you along without commitment simply because you think he’s too hot or too accomplished.¬† Spoiler alert: there’s no such thing!¬† If he’s interested in spending time with you in or out of the bedroom, then you need to be clear about your expectations.¬† When you’re happy with what you’re getting then that’s perfect.¬† If you’re not, make it clear!

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Dating Doubts

I’ve learned to care a lot less about what other people think.¬† If he fucks it up?¬† Well… I don’t care, really.¬† I mean it’s lovely for now, but he’s got a lot of living to do before settling down.¬† I’m looking to plant those roots in Toronto, but until then why waste good company?

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Warning: Dating Younger may have Drama Closer than it Appears

When dating a younger man, there’s always the chance there will be some pathetic fly on the wall desperate to make a meal out of a snack.¬† One day she’ll learn.¬† For now, ignore…ignore…ignore.

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Dating Deterrents

In my last year in Korea I dealt with the most vile, psychotic woman I’ve ever met because she thought she was dating my boyfriend.¬† She met him twice – before I had ever met him.¬† The vendetta lasted a year, and I’m sure the wine, fat-shaming, and name-calling parties continue even now that I’m gone.¬† There’s plenty more to the story, but that’s too juicy for today.

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Just one for the young ladies considering the paragraph above.¬† We’re older.¬† We’re wiser.¬† Take heed.

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Korea –> Canada: Dating through Repatriation

Living in Korea was great for my health, horrible for my heath, and taught me a lot.¬† It was great because in my first year I was able to create that work/ life balance I so craved.¬† I had the opportunity to cook properly, my favourite snack foods were disgusting in Korea (BBQ Cheetos – ew!), and I had split shifts meaning I could work out 2 hours a day.¬† I took my weekends off, and that’s where I’d let myself go off the rails a little bit.

Number 1 rule?¬† No gym on weekends.¬† Number 2 rule?¬† It’s okay to eat an entire pie from Pizza School (corn and all) on Sunday.¬† Was I hungover?¬† Absolutely.¬† Had I cleaned my entire apartment Friday night rather than go out?¬† Hell yes.¬† Did that have something to do with the “focus candy” prescribed liberally?¬† OH YEAH.¬† Korea helped me lose my stress weight and taught me about balance.¬† When you feel good you look good and that goodness radiates.¬† I have a whole new outlook on dating in Canada right now.

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My #1 Key to Dating Anywhere

What did I learn?¬† Well, this series is about dating, so we’ll keep it to that.¬† Communication is the absolute most important part.¬† Even if you’re dating someone from another English-speaking country, there are bound to be cultural differences.¬† Knowing what you want and what you can bring to the table is also important.¬† As someone returning to the dating game in my home country, I don’t feel comfortable dating someone who has just been blindly happy with the status quo the entire time I’ve been away.¬† Maybe it’s the Korean Skincare Routine, maybe I’m just not willing to settle for someone who has settled.¬† Regardless, I’m attracting younger guys – and I’m starting to be okay with that.

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In conclusion, nobody needs to know you’re dating younger.¬†

You’re only as old as the man that you feel, right?

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Have you experienced something interesting and unexpected coming back to the dating pool in your home country?  Let Cartier know in the comments section below!

Booby Blog #5: Boob Job in Seoul (Before and After)

 Are you considering plastic surgery in Korea?  Make sure to reach out to the team at Seoul Cosmetic Surgery (info@seoulcosmeticsurgery.com) for the most transparent Q&A and easiest consultation experience.  For more information about getting my breast implants in Seoul, check out the Booby Blog Archives!

My Boob Job in Seoul

I feel pretty ridiculous posting all of these before and after pictures from my boob job in Seoul.¬† I’ve had a number of messages saying that people appreciate how candid I’ve been about all this (thanks for them!).¬† With that in mind, I’m going to try to press on even though I feel silly and vain.¬† My breast augmentation surgery in Seoul at TL Plastic Surgery with Seoul Cosmetic Surgery was really easy.¬† My recovery was a lot easier than I expected.¬† Every body reacts differently.¬† Maybe it’s because I’m tall, muscular (erring on the heavy side), and generally take pretty good care of myself, but my recovery has been a breeze compared to a few other ladies who have had plastic surgery.¬† Without further adieu, here are some before and after shots!

Boob Job in Seoul Follow Up

A day, a week, a month and 2 months after surgery I had follow up appointments to check the implants, incisions, and the surrounding tissue.¬† I also had laser treatments to aid in the healing process of the incisions.¬† Some other women I know who have had a boob job in Seoul haven’t had as many follow ups, so I’m pretty thrilled with the after-care of TL Plastic Surgery.

Can you believe how tiny my ta-tas were before?¬† ¬†people thought I’d go full Dolly Parton with absolutely giant knockers.¬† I didn’t want that!¬† I just wanted nicely shaped breasts which suit my frame and height.¬† I probably could have gone bigger, but didn’t want to look (or feel) fake.¬† I rarely wear a bra now. My back doesn’t hurt.¬† Life’s so much easier!¬†

Wearing a Compression Garment After a Boob Job in Seoul

Wearing a compression garment has actually become more and more comfortable.¬† You’re supposed to wear it for a month after surgery.¬† I’ve seen so many women have issues with their breast implants starting to migrate and widen.¬† My compression garment has actually been on the big side.¬† I’m tall and have a big rib cage, but the tightest setting on my compression garment was still too loose unfortunately.¬† I would advise that if you’re tall and/ or broad like I am, invest in a compression garment that fits your new chest right after your boob job in Seoul.¬† You might want to check into buying one online as I’m not sure how many other compression garment styles are out there.¬† Mine in particular was like a regular bra but without the underwire or the part covering the nipple.¬† Some people compared it to a bondage look from the 70’s.

Are you considering plastic surgery in Korea?  Make sure to reach out to the team at Seoul Cosmetic Surgery (info@seoulcosmeticsurgery.com) for the most transparent Q&A and easiest consultation experience.  For more information about getting my breast implants in Seoul, check out the Booby Blog Archives!

 

Exes & Oh No’s: An Expat‚Äôs Guide to Ladies’ Sick Sense

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Creepy Communication

We all do it.¬† Social Media makes it easier than ever to look up how our loved ones past and present are doing.¬† Are they living their best lives?¬† How happy are they?¬†¬†It seems when I’ve finally met someone new, the ghosts of lost loves past have their interests piqued.¬† When I started dating my most recent ex, it breathed life into a few poltergeists.¬† The man I’ll probably always consider to be the first¬†great love of my life reached out.¬† He said everything that I had needed and so desperately craved hearing, albeit all a little too late.¬† I was honest about our communication with my new partner, and he was honest (well…to a point) about his.¬† When I was living with the Adonis, he would call his ex while I was at work.¬† What did I care if they spoke?¬† They dated for 7 years – she was a huge part of his life and he was important to her.¬† She was also roughly 9,000 km away.¬† How much harm could she really do from that great a distance?¬† I think I’d be more worried if he wasn’t interested in her well-being and didn’t want to maintain mutual respect.

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Waiting for the Other Shoe to Drop

In a new relationship, it’s tempting to look back on your partner’s old ones.¬† Are you part of a trend or are you different, special – an outlier?¬† Are you far enough outside the particular set of previous patterns and failures to stand the test of time?¬† A jealous,¬†pissed off, or threatened woman¬†does better research than the¬†FBI, CIA and Secret Service combined.¬† When in a budding relationship I was contacted by my (then new) boyfriend’s ex stating that he had cheated on the previous two.¬† She told me I was becoming a symptom of a much bigger problem.¬† I, of course, dismissed it at the time.¬† He told me just enough to make it seem like we had an open and honest relationship.¬† I was completely transparent.¬† When his pattern reemerged several months later, you had better bet I quickly learned about RSS feeds, source, input, and the ease of info gathering online.¬† I did it because I sensed a problem.¬† I had an underlying insecurity about the state of our relationship.¬† I was waiting for the other shoe to drop, and unfortunately got more than I bargained for.

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Poking Holes in More Than Just the Story

What about the longstanding current girlfriend, fiance, or even wife, though?¬† I mean, she’s already won.¬† What use is it to look back on something which ended so very long ago?¬† On one hand, I can see that she means no harm.¬† She’s just curious about our history together.¬† How far down the line is it normal or healthy to creep?¬† Why does my ex boyfriend’s current love want to know about my daily activities now when he and I ceased all contact 7 months ago?¬† I’m sure there’s a small part where the “winner” can take perverse pleasure in popping up and rubbing it in your face that she’s enjoying your old memories.¬† Is there trouble in paradise or does she just want to lord her “success” over me without ever having to exchange words?

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When you’ve finally met someone new and are enjoying learning all about him, she’s there to drudge up the past.¬† At least when a man’s 6th sense kicks in, you might get closure.¬† When woman’s sick sense starts tingling, everyone just ends up shaken.¬† It’s better on both sides to leave well enough alone.¬†

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Personal Space

To my exes’ new girlfriends and wives: ladies, if you’re really that curious about me, reach out!¬† I’d rather be cool with your creeping than completely unnerved.¬† If that’s not your jam, please have the decency to¬†use a fake account.¬† You don’t need him to block me.¬† You don’t need to control with whom he communicates.¬† The women before me prepared him to love you.¬† If your relationship is strong, it’s due in part to the fact that I made him ready to love you and that you’re a better fit together than we ever could have been.¬† The hell he and I went through together doesn’t negate the joy you have now.¬† It’s not in spite of it, it’s because of it.¬† We worked through issues together that have made him a more considerate boyfriend or husband for you.¬† They will hopefully have helped make me a better partner in my next relationship, too.

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Gratitude

To my readers: If your man is communicative, caring, and observant, chances are there’s a mother, sister, or ex-girlfriend who helped him along the way.¬† There’s not a single ex-boyfriend of mine with whom I’d want to get back together, but I have a genuine interest in their well-being.¬†¬†Don’t try to police your significant other’s communication.¬† If he’s friendly with his ex and a better man with you than he was with her, you might even want to buy her a bottle of wine.

Booby Blog #2: Questions @ TL Plastic Surgery – Seoul Cosmetic Surgery

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Generally, I like the way I look.¬† Having worked hard to drop weight when I came to Korea I felt good about my body.¬† As a tall woman with a muscular, athletic frame, I didn’t always feel very feminine in my looks.¬† For the past 15 years I’ve worn a padded bra simply because my breasts never seemed to come in.¬†¬†It might surprise you how many times I, an accidental Korean Beauty Blogger and small potato on the K-Beauty influencer scene, have been approached about partnering up for plastic surgery.¬† I never felt like anyone took enough time with me to assess my needs or ask me what I wanted, until chatting with Mona.

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When Mona from Seoul Cosmetic Surgery asked to work together, I still had the same sort of response.¬† I have had several friends go through the procedure, but just wasn’t sure it was for me.¬† Did I really want foreign objects inside my body forever?¬† Was I ready to leave Korea kicking myself at having not gone through with it?¬† What if they were too big?¬† What if they weren’t big enough?¬† How would my family deal if there was a problem mid-surgery?¬† What if I left my friends and family with a giant Korean mess on their hands?¬† What were the right questions to ask?¬† I wrote an article about what I was considering, and was met with a flurry of comments from supportive friends and aggressively anti-surgery threads.

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Why Breast Implants Were the Right Choice For My Body

With all the negativity coming from Facebook comments, I actually received a number of private messages from women in similar situations.   I had no idea that there was even a problem until my shirt came off and my doctor said that it would be a complicated surgery.

“Tuberous breasts¬†(or¬†tubular breasts) are a result of a congenital abnormality of the¬†breasts¬†which can occur in both men and women (also see Hypoplasia), one¬†breast¬†or both. During puberty¬†breast¬†development is stymied and the¬†breasts¬†fail to develop normally and fully.” –¬†Panchapakesan V, Brown MH¬†¬†

It turns out that tuberous (also known as “tubular”, “herniated areolar complexes”, “conical breast”, “domen nipple”, “lower pole hypoplasia“,¬†¬†“hypoplastic breasts”, or “constricted” breasts) are pretty common.¬† I always said my breasts looked like sad puppies, but I was unaware another term for these were “Snoopy breasts”.¬† Now I was going from a consultation where I wasn’t even sure I wanted the surgery, to panicking that it wasn’t even going to be possible.

My TL Plastic Surgery Breast Implant Consultation with Seoul Plastic Surgery

Throughout this consultation, I got more information about the remaining steps should the breast augmentation surgery be approved by my surgeon to move forward.¬† I would need to come in for one more consultation (for sizing and remaining questions), then a final appointment for a urine test, blood panel, and EKG (Electrocardiogram).¬† After that, we’d take my “before” photos and get all set for surgery.¬† Mona and Dean from Seoul Cosmetic Surgery were at TL Plastic Surgery with my surgeon, Dr. Yim Joonghyuk, and TL’s awesome English-speaking coordinator, Christina, for each appointment.

Can you believe I was up and walking around right after surgery? https://thatgirlcartier.com/2017/10/10/plastic-surgery-breast-implants-korea/ . . . The next day (Saturday) I was back in the clinic to get bandages removed, check on swelling, and get an antibiotic injection. I'll be back at @tlps_official in one week with @seoulcosmeticsurgery to check on everything one more time and clean up the incisions. I think we will be doing a laser procedure at that point as well to help with any scarring. So far? So good! ūüíé//#internationaltravel . . . . . . . #ad #imwithmotiva #ladiesgoneglobal¬†#ladiestravel¬†#ladieswhotravel¬†#LaptopLifestyle¬†#letsgoeverywhere¬†#lifestyleblog¬†#lifestyleblogger¬†#lifewelltravelled¬†#linkinprofile¬†#livecolorfully¬†#liveinwanderlove¬†#livetotravel¬†#livetravelchannel¬†#lonelyplanet¬†#lovetheworld¬†#lovetotravel¬†#makemoments¬†#motivation¬†#mylifeisatravelmovie¬†#mytinyatlas¬†#mytravelgram¬†#neverstopexploring¬†#nomadlife¬†#ontheblog¬†#outfitoftheday¬†#passionpassport

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Breast Implants Concerns

My main concern when it came to the surgery was how I’d be “out” during throughout my breast implant procedure.¬† It’s most common to be under general anesthesia, but I’ve heard of local anesthesia and sleep sedation for breast augmentation, too.¬† It terrified me that there was a chance I’d wake up mid-surgery unable to communicate.¬† I’m aware of how absolutely ridiculous that sounds, but I was signing myself up for elective plastic surgery.¬† I’d be worried if I wasn’t worried at various steps throughout.¬† What put my mind at ease was asking my plastic surgeon the following:

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Questions to Ask a Breast Augmentation Plastic Surgeon

  1. What size would you recommend for my body type?¬† Provided you’ve already researched your surgeon and are working with a trusted medical tourism company like Seoul Cosmetic Surgery, there’s no reason not to take your surgeon’s opinion on size at face value.¬† My surgeon told me that he would want my Motiva breast implants to be, at minimum, 380 cc (if not more!) I thought this was going to be way too big since my friends had gotten only 300 and they looked like massive porn star breasts.¬† Well, considering my current breasts, my height, my body type, and the size of my rib cage and wide shoulders, my doctor was right on the money.¬† I should have gone bigger (maybe 400?), but am honestly very happy with the way my breast implants look.¬† They have appeared very natural since the end of the 2nd week.¬† I was able to go back to the gym then and start power walking without too much discomfort.¬† Before the 2 month anniversary, I was able to run 5 km again.
  2. How will the implants be inserted?¬† It’s very popular to go through the armpit in Korea because of Korean women’s small frames.¬† For foreigners, under the breast insertion is recommended.¬† This makes for a much less painful recovery, and a shorter one, too.¬† The incision scars will also be less obvious.
  3. How large will you make the incisions? With Motiva breast implants, it’s actually possible to have very small incisions.¬† This means your scars won’t be very obvious.¬† Mine are only visible if I raise my arms above my head.¬† They’re pretty dark, but only about 4 cm on each side.¬† On instagram I’ve seen surgeons boasting about incisions as small as 3 cm, so I think we’re doing pretty well!
  4. How do I prepare for surgery?¬† The only advice I got for this was not to smoke (I don’t smoke) or drink a week before surgery.¬† I think more than that it’s important to prepare your body to undergo general anesthesia.¬† Get 8 hours of sleep.¬† Hit the gym.¬† Eat healthy foods and avoid unnecessary junk.¬† Hey – I can’t do it all the time, but when going under the knife it really helped to train my body and prepare properly.
  5. How do I take care of myself post-surgery? Take it easy! Listen to your body and don’t over-do it, but also don’t baby yourself too much.¬† Try to get back to regular, healthy, daily activities.¬† It’s recommended that you don’t smoke and don’t drink for about a month.¬† This really depends on how long they’ve got you on painkillers.¬† Many doctors say you can return to almost all regular activity (yes- that kind)once you’re off pain medication.
  6. What do I do with the stitches? Nothing!¬† Just like when I had my appendix removed, my stitches were dissolvable.¬† The roughest part of surgery is not being able to properly shower for a week.¬† You must protect the incisions with waterproof bandaids.¬† After a week, you’ll be able to shower.¬† The surgical glue will fall off naturally when ready.¬† In the shower you’ll need to softly rub it away.¬† Make sure to follow up with bio-oil or vitamin E to treat the scarred area.
  7. How often will I have follow up appointments?¬† TL Plastic Surgery is very thorough and beyond the “after” photos and general check-ups, they also offered 3 laser treatments as part of my package.¬† These are to help speed up the healing of my incision scars.¬† I was scared, but they took all of 5 minutes and didn’t hurt a bit.
  8. What kind of medication do I need to take?¬†¬†I was given a prescription for Tylenol 3 which includes codeine.¬† I had some discomfort, but no real pain.¬† I didn’t really want to take the pain medication, but felt it might improve the effects of the swelling.¬† After 2 days it was back to work for me, so I stopped.¬† I had 2 days of antibiotics cocktails 3 times a day, then a pack once a day for 2 weeks.¬† I was also on a pill a day to ensure the implant itself didn’t harden.¬† That’s something I took once a day for 2 months.

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How Big Are My Breast Implants?

The most common regret when it comes to breast augmentation procedures (or a “boob job”) is not going big enough.¬† Throughout my consultation I tried on many different sizes of implants under a tight shirt, but none were really indicative of the size they would be once the swelling was gone, my body relaxed, and I got back to the gym.¬† Even though I have 320 cc’s in my right breast and 300 cc’s in my left, my overall breast size hasn’t dramatically increased.¬† My surgeon was well aware that I didn’t want huge breasts getting in my way while exercising, teaching, or anything that would mean an entirely new wardrobe.¬† Since I already wore a padded bra daily, I haven’t had to buy new clothes, I’ve just swapped out the underwire for sports bras (and it feels wonderful!)¬† Not having to wear a bold piece of metal digging into each side daily is the biggest takeaway from this whole experience.¬† I love the way my figure looks.¬† It’s not a change anyone but me would notice, but I didn’t go through with this surgery for anyone else.

None of these “Top 6 Annoying Things After a Boob Job” apply…

Leegeehaam: Easy 3-Step Korean Skincare Morning Routine

Korean Skincare Review: Leegeehaam has quick-drying formulae which I love when I'm in a rush.  My skin feels soft and there's never any hint of shine.

I always jump at the opportunity to try a new skincare routine, especially those local to Korea.¬† Leegeehaam is located practically in my backyard – as my office is super close to theirs!¬† When I’m asked to review skincare products I often worry that I won’t be able to give a positive review.¬† I have fairly sensitive skin and can’t handle much in the way of fragrance.¬† I’ve been really lucky lately to have found mild formulas with a hint of scent which actually get the job done.¬† Recommending the following products is easy for a number of reasons.¬† First, the application is simple.¬† I only have 3 steps to fulfill.¬† The formulas are nourishing, but dry quickly enough that I can put my makeup on right away.¬† I’m not exactly a morning person, so when it comes to my morning routine I want to moisturize, pop on a little concealer if I’m looking/ feeling tired, add a little blush, and be well on my merry way.

Backed by leading dermatologists, Leegeehaam (LGH) Cosmetics, formerly Leejiham (LJH) Cosmetics, was first established in year 2000 and it pioneered the concept of cosmeceutical in Korea with its innovative and advanced products, each specialized in treating specific skin concern.  

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I tried out the Leegeehaam GROW Hyal B5 Ampoule, HOPE 5a Control Emulsion, and HOPE 5a Control Cream.¬† As you can see above, the 3 products are not from the same line, so you can mix and match to support your moisturizing goals.¬† This trio acts to reduce shine and provide moisture as the temperatures dip colder and colder.¬† This line is a lot more affordable with fewer products to include and lower price-points than my nightly routine¬†(these range from KRW 28,000 – KRW 48,000).¬† This routine is super quick and easy.¬† I would definitely have this as a repurchase in my Korean skincare arsenal.¬† If you’re a girl on the go looking to get into Korean beauty and skincare, this is your gateway…

  1. Right after my shower, I’ll dry my face and pop on the Leegeehaam GROW Hyal B5 Ampoule.¬† This comes with an eye-drop applicator.¬† 2 drops really go a long way!¬† This is the only product from the trio I tried which has much of a fragrance.¬† It’s a very subtle scent which always reminds me a little of chai.
  2. The Hyal B5 Ampoule dries very quickly, so I don’t have to waste too much time before my second step: applying the 5a Control Emulsion.¬† Ampoules and emulsions are designed to prepare your skin to soak up all the moisturizing goodness of a cream, so I don’t skip any of the 3 steps.¬† The emulsion dries fairly quickly, too.¬† Because it has cinnamon as a key ingredient, it has a subtle scent which goes very nicely with the ampoule.¬† This step is designed to reduce excess sebum – the oily, waxy substance which can block pores and contribute to acne break-outs.
  3. I’ll usually wait a couple of minutes before cracking open the 5a Control Cream.¬† The consistency is less cream-like and more gel-like.¬† Again, it has a quick-drying formula which I love in the morning when I’m in a rush.¬† My skin feels soft all day and there’s never any hint of shine.

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Leegeehaam Hyal B5 Line Information

Formulated with true oasis made from 5-Hyaluronic Complex for deep, yet long lasing moisturizing for dehydrated skin suffering from dry, puffy, and rough skin caused by lack of hydration. A strong moisture barrier formed by Vitamin B5 and B3 holds onto rich hydration from 5-Hyaluronic Complex by preventing future water loss, leaving skin hydrated, plump, and glowing all day. Hyal B5 fills, retains, and protects moisture with 5-Hyaluronic Complex and Vitamin B3 & B5 barrier for deep hydration throughout the year.

* 5-hyaluronic complex
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Leegeehaam Grow Hyal B5 Ampoule

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Leegeehaam Grow Hyal B5 Ampoule Product Details

As known as moisture retaining ampoule, ultra-hydrating formula of 5-Hyaluronic Complex replenishes the skin with deep moisturizing, while retaining moisture inside with visibly improved plumpness and radiance.  Special jelly-like texture adheres tightly to the skin for intensive hydration and nourishing, improving fine lines, flakiness, and tightness from dehydration. High concentration of hyaluronic acid restores youthful hydration to dry skin, while vitamin B5 and B3 retains maximum level of moisturizing.

Leegeehaam Grow Hyal B5 Ampoule Size

30ml

How to Use Leegeehaam Grow Hyal B5 Ampoule

Squeeze out 2~3 droplets and apply over the face after toning.  Gently pat to absorb better.

Leegeehaam Grow Hyal B5 Ampoule Key Ingredients

  • Penta-Hyaluronic Acid
    (Hydroxypropyltrimonium Hyaluronate, Hydrolyzed Hyaluronic Acid, Sodium Acetylated Hyaluronate, Sodium Hyaluronate, Ascorbyl Propyl Hyaluronate)
    Infuses intensive and deep moisturizing to the skin.
  • Vitamin B5 (panthenol) & B3 (niacinamide)
    Forms a moisture barrier on skin surface as it is applied, preventing any moisture loss and at the same time, protects skin from outer stimulation.

Leegeehaam Grow Hyal B5 Ampoule Full Ingredients

Water, Glycerin, Methylpropanediol, 1,2-hexanediol, Niacinamide, Dioscorea japonica root extract, Sodium hyaluronate, Panthenol, Saccharomyces ferment filtrate, Octyldodeceth-16, Peg-40 hydrogenated castor oil, Polyquaternium-51, Hydrolyzed hyaluronic acid, Piper methysticum leaf/root/stem extract, Centella asiatica extract, Panax ginseng berry extract, Vanilla planifolia fruit extract, Hydrogenated lecithin, Glycosyl trehalose, Glyceryl glucoside, Ethylhexylglycerin, Hydrogenated starch hydrolysate, Adenosine, Biosaccharide gum-1, Raffinose, Disodium edta, Olea europaea (olive) fruit oil, Lecithin, Carbomer, Tromethamine, Beta-glucan, Michelia alba leaf oil, Myristica fragrans (nutmeg) kernel oil, Daucus carota sativa (carrot) seed oil, Elettaria cardamomum seed oil, Michelia alba flower oil, Butylene glycol, Tagetes minuta flower oil, Hydroxypropyltrimonium hyaluronate, Ascorbyl propyl hyaluronate, Sodium acetylated hyaluronate

Korean Skincare Review: Leegeehaam has quick-drying formulae which I love when I'm in a rush.  My skin feels soft and there's never any hint of shine.

Leegeehaam 5őĪ¬†Control

Named after a hormone called ‚Äú5 Alpha¬†Reductase,‚ÄĚ which causes abnormal sebum production if imbalanced, the patented and mineral oil free formula of 5 Alpha¬†Control series offers the perfect solution for controlling skin oil and shine. Moreover, it not only removes the unnecessary sebum but at the same time, soothes skin from inflammation to relieve skin trouble, leaving it healthy and refined.

Korean Skincare Review: Leegeehaam has quick-drying formulae which I love when I'm in a rush.  My skin feels soft and there's never any hint of shine.

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Leegeehaam Hope 5a Control Emulsion – Product Details

Contains a high concentration of Sepicontrol A5, the key ingredient for shine control, to soothe and balance oily skin. Mineral oil free texture gently controls skin shine and oil, especially around the T-zone without the stickiness. It fills skin with natural moisturizing factors, making it plump and vital with the reduced sebum secretion.

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Leegeehaam Hope 5a Control Emulsion – Size

100 ml

How to Use Leegeehaam Hope 5a Control Emulsion

Pump 2~3 times and apply over the face.
Gently pat to absorb better.

Leegeehaam Hope 5a Control Emulsion – Key Ingredients

  • Witch Hazel
    Tightens the widened pores.
  • Cinnamomum Zeylanicum Bark Extract¬†
    Balances the skin by controlling unnecessary oil and shine.

Leegeehaam Hope 5a Control Emulsion – Full Ingredients

Water, Butylene Glycol, Dimethicone, Sorbitan Stearate, Cetyl Alcohol, Hydroxyacetophenone, Capryloyl Glycine, Sucrose Stearate, 1,2-Hexanediol, Hexylene Glycol, Sesamum Indicum (Sesame) Seed Oil, Butyrospermum ParkII (Shea) Butter Extract, Polysorbate 60, Tocopheryl Acetate, Magnesium Aluminum Silicate, PEG-100 Stearate, Glyceryl Stearate, Sorbitan Sesquioleate, Bisabolol, Sarcosine, Sucrose Cocoate, Fragrance, Argania Spinosa Kernel Oil, Carbomer, PEG-60 Almond Glycerides, Tromethamine, Caprylyl Glycol, Serenoa Serrulata Fruit Extract, Cinnamomum Zeylanicum Bark Extract, Ethylhexylglycerin, Dipotassium Glycyrrhizate, Spent Grain Wax, Panthenol, Xanthan Gum, Disodium Cocoamphodiacetate, Disodium EDTA, Beta-Sitosterol, Hamamelis Virginiana (Witch Hazel) Extract, Sodium Hyaluronate, Glycerin, PVP, Saccharomyces Cerevisiae Extract, Triticum Vulgare (Wheat) Germ Extract, Tocopherol, Pantolactone, Sodium Metabisulfite, Phellinus Linteus Extract, Nordihydroguaiaretic Acid, Oleanolic Acid, Ganoderma Lucidum (Mushroom) Extract, Cordyceps Sinensis Extract

Korean Skincare Review: Leegeehaam has quick-drying formulae which I love when I'm in a rush.  My skin feels soft and there's never any hint of shine.

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Leegeehaam Hope 5a Control Cream – Product Details

Lightweight mineral oil-free technology with patented special formula of LGH is combined together to provide the optimal oil and shine control effect. It is a strongly recommended cream for those who have shiny skin surface but dehydrated inside (a good moisturizing cream for oily skin types).

Korean Skincare Review: Leegeehaam has quick-drying formulae which I love when I'm in a rush.  My skin feels soft and there's never any hint of shine.

Leegeehaam Hope 5a Control Cream – Size

50ml

How to Use Leegeehaam Hope 5a Control Cream

Apply an appropriate amount on face, morning and night.

Leegeehaam Hope 5a Control Cream Key Ingredients

  • Witch Hazel
    Tightens the widened pores.
  • Aloe Barbadensis Leaf Juice
    Soothes and relieves acne/trouble skin.

Leegeehaam Hope 5a Control Cream Full Ingredients

Water, Glycerin, Cyclopentasiloxane, Butylene Glycol, Cetearyl Alcohol, Dimethicone, Betaine, Aloe Barbadensis Leaf Extract, Centella Asiatica Extract, Saccharomyces Cerevisiae Extract, Triticum Vulgare (Wheat) Germ Extract, Phellinus Linteus Extract, Cordyceps Sinensis Extract, Ganoderma Lucidum (Mushroom) Extract, Serenoa Serrulata Fruit Extract, Cinnamomum Zeylanicum Bark Extract, Hamamelis Virginiana (Witch Hazel) Extract, Candida Bombicola/Glucose/Methyl Rapeseedate Ferment, Argania Spinosa Kernel Oil, Sesamum Indicum (Sesame) Seed Oil, PEG-60 Almond Glycerides, Oleanolic Acid, Nordihydroguaiaretic Acid, Bisabolol, Disodium Cocoamphodiacetate, Panthenol, Sodium Hyaluronate, Hydrogenated Lecithin, Tocopherol, Beta-Sitosterol, Capryloyl Glycine, Sarcosine, Potassium Sorbate, Tocopheryl Acetate, Glyceryl Acrylate/Acrylic Acid Copolymer, Cetearyl Glucoside, Glucose, Sodium Acrylate/Sodium Acryloyldimethyl Taurate Copolymer, Isohexadecane, Polysorbate 80, Sorbitan Oleate, Dimethicone/Vinyl Dimethicone Crosspolymer, Carbomer, Tromethamine, Propylene Glycol, Pentylene Glycol, Hexylene Glycol, 1,2-Hexanediol, Caprylyl Glycol, Ethylhexylglycerin, Fragrance

Korean Skincare Review: Leegeehaam has quick-drying formulae which I love when I'm in a rush.  My skin feels soft and there's never any hint of shine.

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